Two Stories That Will Drive You to Not Drink

Two stories caught my eye as I scrolled through the WDRB (Louisville) news website today.

"A southern Indiana man was arrested overnight following a crash that killed his passenger on Sunday. Wimpy L. Myers, 45, is being charged with murder, criminal mischief, and operating a motor vehicle under the influence of alcohol.... According to the citation, Myers was driving a Dodge Challenger and was going fast in the northbound lanes, then for an unknown reason, lost control and crossed over into the opposite lanes and crashed into a utility pole and a tree. Myers' passenger was thrown from the vehicle and later died at University Hospital. Police arrested Myers at University Hospital. According to the arrest report, his blood alcohol level was .221, almost three times the legal limit."

And in other news:

"The man charged with killing a 17-year-old Louisville boy in a DUI crash in 2023 will spend nearly 20 years in prison. Ernesto 'Erick' Ocampo Gonzalez was sentenced to 18 years on Monday. He must serve 85% of that sentence and pay a $10,000 fine.... According to arrest documents, Gonzalez was speeding and driving under the influence April 22, 2023, on Shepherdsville Road when he crashed into the back of a Toyota that was stopped at a red light. That caused a chain-reaction crash, with the Toyota then hitting a Pontiac that crashed into the back of a Buick.

"Police said Gonzalez had a blood alcohol level more than four times the legal limit. Louisville Metro Police said Gonzalez didn't attempt to stop or slow down before he crashed into the Toyota. Three people were in the Toyota, including 17-year-old Mohammed Hussein, who was taken to UofL Hospital where he died from his injuries." (https://www.wdrb.com/news/)

Those are two tragedies that didn't need to happen. Several years ago, that could have been me. If it's you driving under the influence, it might be or my children or your children who are the victims. But for the grace of God....

 What If God Told You to Build an Ark? Or to Drink More?

As a teenager, I didn't like being told what to do. And as a teenager who attended a Presbyterian church every Sunday, I didn't like being told what to believe. I struggled with parts of the bible and what Sunday school teachers sometimes tried to sell me. 

Like, how did the authors of Genesis know God flooded the entire earth and killed all people and animals except for Noah and the pairs of animals on the ark? The writers weren't there or they would have drowned. And no one back then knew for thousands of years that North and South America and Australia and Antarctica even existed. Were those continents flooded? Did all the plants die underwater? Did God let the fish live, since they couldn't drown?

If it says so in scriptures, that means it has to be true, including a talking snake tempting Eve. Did Noah let every kind of snake onto the ark, and if so, what about the evil talking snakes?

I have heard from many that one of the attractions of AA and the Twelve Steps is that no one tells us what to believe. There is no right or wrong. It's all about the God as we understood him, in Steps Three and Eleven.

In yesterday's post I quoted from I Want What God Wants. The book is too biblical for my tastes, but the authors do make some good points. "Maybe like me, you have struggled with religion and it's left you feeling disappointed and let down. Maybe for you a relationship with God feels more like an exercise program than a friendship. Just quit! I'm serious, quit religion and tell God you want a relationship. Throw away your rulebooks and lists that were handed to you by well-intentioned people and instead invite God to search you, test you, critique you, and lead you."   (https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/29957590-i-want-what-god-wants)

A relationship with God is essential to conquer any kind of addiction. Build that relationship with God as you understand him.

Sharpen Your Pencils And Close Your Books 

I have heard some people disagree with my viewpoint in the book I had published last year. I wrote:

"God seems always to be giving us tests. Each exam we pass makes us a better person, but getting there can be a major struggle. That's the way it is when alcohol overwhelms a person's life. Overcoming such an addiction is one of God's toughest tests to pass. But by placing him in the center of our lives, faithfully attending Alcoholics Anonymous meetings, working through AA's Twelve Steps, and exploring our inner selves, it becomes possible to overcome alcoholism." (Corking the Bottle,   https://covenantbooks.com/books/?book=corking-the-bottle)

I stand by my analogy of God as teacher passing out pop quizzes to the class. Here's some more light shone by Bill and Jason Isaacs in I Want What God Wants (https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/29957590-i-want-what-god-wants):

"Each time I teach or talk about God's testing, I always hear from someone who isn't comfortable with the idea. They feel like God is being cruel or setting them up to fail, but just like every student who has gone through school, we know the tests are what prove we are ready to move on to something better. God's tests are always backed with purpose and good intention. Honestly, God already knows what our response will be to the challenges we face, but tests also show you and me where we still struggle to trust God. The purpose of his tests is never pain; it's always growth." (emphasis added)

Class dismissed.

Addiction? It's All In Your Head

 James made a point at today's AA Big Book study that I want to follow up on. "It's a thinking disease, not a drinking disease," he said. "You can relapse and never take a drink if your mind goes back to those dark places."

I did a little following-up in some of my books I've collected. I came across this gem: "A life that includes wholesome living, uplifting relationships, commitment to values outside of oneself, and spiritual growth supports long-term health and sobriety. Reorienting life around values that are non-drug centered is an essential part of recovery." (Staying Sober, by Terence T. Gorski and Merlene Miller)

 Godki Pewakunyu Hanaka (Nez Perce for God Be With You Till We Meet Again)

We don’t know who, how, or when, but we all have opportunities to influence the lives of others. Sometimes we make an effort to improve someone else’s life, but many times, we don’t know if some small act could make a huge difference for someone. And we might never know.

That’s the case with a high school teacher of mine. I had Mr. William Kness for journalism and creative writing my junior and senior years. I have tried to contact him so I can tell him what he meant to me, but I can’t find out if he is even alive. After all, that was more than 50 years ago.

Here is what I mean. He was reading a book about the mistreatment of Indians in the 19th Century and told our class about it. Living in Western Pennsylvania, I don’t think I even knew Indians were still around. He loaned me the book, Bury My Heart at Wounded Knee. (https://magazine.gwu.edu/legacy-bury-my-heart-wounded-knee) While I was reading it, the American Indian Movement occupied the village of Wounded Knee on the Pine Ridge Reservation in South Dakota. I read up on the brutality of the FBI, the corruption in the Bureau of Indian Affairs, and the discrimination of Native Americans on their own lands deeded to them by international treaties for “as long as the sun shall shine.”

Meanwhile, an elderly couple in my church with connections to the Nez Perce Indians in Idaho told me the reservation’s minister sometimes took young volunteers to help teach kids in the summer. Because of Mr. Kness and Wounded Knee, I applied and spent the following summer in Idaho with the Nez Perce. It was and still is the best summer of my life. At the end of the summer, I was part of a caravan of Indians from the various Nez Perce churches who drove to a Christian camp meeting on the Lakota reservation in South Dakota. While there, I was able to drive a short distance to visit Wounded Knee, just one year after the AIM standoff with the military, which I had followed in the news.

I was in college then. When I got home from Idaho, I started dating a girl I had missed while away, married her, and moved to Idaho five years after that life-changing summer. I owed that wonderful summer, my move across the country to Boise, and, quite possibly, the girl I married all to Mr. Kness.

That teacher also told us about a journalism scholarship to Point Park College in Pittsburgh that paid full tuition, room, board, and books. I was able to meet with the head of the Journalism Department there. (He went to the same small college and was a member of the same fraternity as my dad and uncle.) He told me if I wanted the scholarship to write, write, write. So I got a job covering high school sports for our local paper, the Beaver County Times, I entered and won high school writing contests, and ultimately I won that state-wide college scholarship to Point Park. I owed it all to Mr. Kness, telling us about the scholarship in my junior year. Until then, I never even heard of Point Park College.

Two summers ago, my wife and I vacationed in South Dakota with our two grown daughters, both born in Idaho. We made a slight detour to stop at Wounded Knee. While there, I thanked God for bringing Bill Kness into my life.

That teacher was in Beaver Falls High School to teach English. He taught me a lot more than that. He taught me to understand what the country did and does to native people, he taught me to stand behind whoever the underdog is, he indirectly led me to the greatest summer of my life, he kind-of brought my wife and me together, he enabled me to attend college for free, he was responsible for me moving to Idaho and being able to camp in the mountains there, and he made possible two visits to Wounded Knee.

This is a long post, but I wanted to tell this story as an example of what you can mean to others without even being aware of the difference you are making. Be ready to listen. Be ready to share your passions in life. Be ready to go out of your way when someone needs you, even if they don’t know they need you.

God bless you, Mr. Kness. I hope somehow you have an idea of how you changed my life for the better.

 Then Why Do They Call Themselves Gin Blossoms?

I've been keeping myself busy with my books and with my tapes
And every day's much better since I've slowed my drinking pace
There's no swimming in the bottle
It's just someplace we all drown
I lost myself in sorrow, I've lost my confidence in doubt

     --Gin Blossoms, "Mrs. Rita" (https://www.songlyrics.com/gin-blossoms/mrs-rita-lyrics/)

I have some Gin Blossoms songs on my MP3, which I listen to in my car and when I exercise. I just listened carefully to the words of "Mrs. Rita." It's about a guy who fears he is losing the love of his life, and he is asking a fortune teller, "What's it say in my tarot? Read my palm and tell me why do lovers come and go?"

He finds a distraction reading books and listening to tapes. (If you are too young to know about tapes, think digital media.) Anything is better than drowning in a bottle. We know that's true, right? I, too, keep busy with books, writing this blog, and listening to my MP3. Be sure you find something you like to keep your mind away from using.

 Officer Hyde Becomes Dr. Jekyll

No editorial comment required here:

TEMPE, AZ — A Tempe police officer who recently received an award from Mothers Against Drunk Driving for work to prevent DUIs was arrested for allegedly driving under the influence earlier this week, according to court records.

A spokesperson for the Arizona Department of Public Safety confirmed to the ABC15 Investigators that Officer Zachary Hyde was arrested by troopers because they had probable cause that he was driving under the influence....

The details around the traffic stop are not clear but records show a trooper with the Arizona Department of Public Safety pulled him over after he was driving about 10 miles per hour in a posted 35-mile-per-hour speed zone.

A spokesperson for the Tempe Police Department confirmed to the ABC15 Investigators that the incident happened while Hyde was off-duty and he has been placed on administrative leave pending an investigation. Hyde has been with the department for two years....

The Tempe Police Department shared a post about Hyde’s work with its DUI squad just over a month ago as he was one of many law enforcement officers honored by Mothers Against Drunk Driving (MADD).

The post read, “Congratulations to Officer Zachary Hyde and Officer Gavin Young. Last night both received the Hero Award at the 35th annual Mothers Against Drunk Driving Law Enforcement recognition banquet. Your hard work and diligence to ensuring the safety of our streets was recognized tonight among Officers from the whole State of Arizona.” (https://www.abc15.com/news/local-news/investigations/tempe-officer-lauded-for-dui-work-arrested-for-dui)

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